Your guide to ensuring your relationships survive a COVID-19 lockdown

Published on 24th April, 2020 at 04:18 pm

According to Chinese news source, Global Times, one surprising impact of the COVID-19 quarantine was a spike in divorces as soon as movement restrictions were lifted. But is it really that surprising? Unless you live alone, being at home 24/7 with the same people is not easy.

Here are four relationship tips to remember during this global pandemic, according to psychotherapist and modern relationship expert, Rachel Wright.

1. Make time for alone time

Housemates, partners and parents alike – take note. No matter how much you love who you live with, you’re also going to need a break from constantly seeing them. But that’s not the only benefit of alone time – it’s also important to check in with yourself without having to focus on the needs of someone else. “The important thing is to take time to be with you, yourself, and just you,” explains Wright.

2. Create a schedule.

According to Wright, even a rough schedule for the day can add structure and make things feel more ‘normal’. It’s a great way to plan around focussed working times, quiet rest times and times to connect over food, music or playing games together.

Thanks to a schedule, you can also set expectations with your partner, family members or roommates: being locked down together 24/7 doesn’t mean you have to do everything together 24/7. Share your schedule so others know when to leave you alone.

3. Stay in touch with the outside world.

Although the Director-General of the World Health Organisation actually suggests avoiding too much news if it makes you feel anxious, keeping in touch with your friends and family is really important. It also takes the pressure off your quarantine buddy. “It’s important to maintain your other relationships, even while you’re primarily with your partner [or family members/roommates],” says Wright.

4. Use this time to your advantage.

One of the biggest causes of frustration during lockdown or restricted movement (which you’ll inevitably take out on those around you) can be a sense of not getting things done or being productive. So set new goals for while you’re at home – even if they’re unorthodox.

For example, this is a great time to learn more about each other and see your loved one in a new light. Wright suggests making a list of things you’ve been wanting to do together and circling the things you can do at home. Movies, games, redecorating – when else will you get so much extra quality time together!

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